Blogging – Part Five: Trying to Understand the Psychology Behind It All

For many years while in high tech as a CTO, I was fascinated by the development and progression of chat systems from their very first appearance in Internet land. Though this was not part of my normal everyday running of any of the companies that I worked with, it became a hobby of mine. I also gave seminars around the world, entitled, “The Technological Advance and Psychological Effects of Chat Systems”. These led me to use the term “viral technology”. (This has nothing to do with computer viruses – though the way it works is somewhat the same.) The seminars then advanced to “Understanding The Nature of Viral Systems on the Internet”.

In the next few posts I am going to try and explain all this, and why it is so important to understand that in such seemingly simple things as getting a blog up, working and making it popular. Viral Technology, is an important factor here. We have until this point have only “scratched the tip of the iceberg” as the cliche goes. And there are so many things to understand and deal with. However, being a writer and author, first and foremost, my mind works on different very illogical connections at times. What I am going to try to get at in the next couple of posts is an understanding of how the circle of content-SE’s works, and what is important here. I think by way of examples and using “real life” understanding on the virtual Internet, we can get a better grasp of what is going on and what it is not.

It is critical to understand that we are not only dealing with technology here. We are dealing with psychology and the Internet has a way of digging deep down into individual motivations and actions. Let me first give you an example I found to be incredibly interesting and totally revealing.

On one of the forum boards I sometimes log into, which is populated by a serious and highly intelligent (for the most part) group of people, there are threads for just joking or ranting, as there are on all other Forums. Since many are “virtual” friends these threads are populated by people who banter, give and take, and joke around from time to time to take time off from the vicissitudes of life. Sometimes members ask for serious advice in regard to family and children etc. Now one such member, discovered that her young son had developed an incredible interest (or so she thought) in her “boobs”. She wanted to know if this was normal, for a child of that age to discover the difference between sexes. So she began a thread on the topic. And the thread developed. At first serious, but of course, since everyone there are “virtual” friends the joking started. What was interesting to follow, is that both Males and Females started in joking ways of course, to describe either the size of their chests and/or how they liked or disliked the male population looking at them of if they wanted their breasts smaller or larger etc. The males revealed the size of their wives and girl-friends chests and other such what one might call normally “intimate” knowledge. Some even said: “My (wife or husband or boyfriend or girlfriend) would not be happy if they knew I was writing about this”. All of this was done in a semi-serious and joking manner.

What was interesting is that I am 100% sure, some people would type out a response, post it, and then say to themselves, “Did I really say that in PUBLIC???” I am willing to bet, based upon experience and studies, that many of these people would NEVER consider SAYING out loud what they typed – say at a party of friends or a dinner or a social gathering.

The Internet makes us free with our thoughts. It allows us freedom that we don’t otherwise have, to reveal our “other-side”. The reasons for this are many, not the least of which that we are behind a screen. No on can see our facial expressions (not talking about cams here – a whole different subject) or our body language. Most important – we cannot be physically touched. There is always that barrier. And it would be well to keep that in mind.

To be sure there is the downside of all this. Fakers, charlatans, people acting as someone from the other gender – horror stories galore. However, one thing cannot be denied: (This is not the place to discuss this issue. It is worthy of probably a few hundred articles in and of itself. So I will leave it for now with just the chapter heading.)

The Internet has created a whole new psychological study of the human mind and the way it works. And this is CRITICAL to understanding why some things, some sites, some blogs – make it, while others, seemingly so much better and so much more savvy fall by the wayside. Obviously we want our blog to “make it”.

One of the greatest original “pull” and “attractions” of blogs is the ability for many to get out their “private” thoughts to the world at large in a journal or diary manner. They can reveal what they would be too scared or too shy to reveal with words and lips and mouth in a public setting of individuals all sitting around a table. Though, I for one, do not enjoy or visit blogs of this nature, it remains true that most blogger’s are doing just that. And what is more important to understand, is that many of the blogger’s do not care how many hits they get. It is the catharsis of getting it out. The act of putting it “out there:” that is all important.

Since we are dealing with technology and the desire to build a blog that WILL GET A FOLLOWING and hits, we must understand what motivates and interests people to come to and read what we are posting and saying. We must understand the WHY? as well as the How? This certainly will lead to a much more comprehensive understanding of the motivations of our members and visitors to our blogs.

The next article in this series deals with a definition of “Viral Technologies” and from there we will have a greater understanding as to how to begin to spread the word of our blogs with methods that apply the technological and psychological. Remember though this is not mathematical science. It is just one of the ways to understanding what is going on. It is not foolproof nor does it always work. But it will possibly give us a deeper understanding of the “virtual world” we sometimes live in, and probably more importantly, a better understanding of ourselves.

This article is already published here at EzineArticles.com and you can read it by going to: Viral Systems & Technologies – What Are They?

Marital Dating Advice

Many people find at some point in time that their marriage or long term relationship may have got slightly boring and that their sex life needs a boost. This is where an adult dating website can help individuals find like minded adults looking for similar affairs and adult fun.

It is accepted that both adult men and adult women have marital affairs, this is a given and undisputed fact and has always and will always be the case. The main difference over the last 10 years is in the mechanism that people now use to instigate a marital affair. More and more married people looking for extramarital affairs use the internet. This affords them the convenience, safety and anonymity they require in their search for a married encounter. Current research suggests that about 60 percent of adult men and 40 percent of adult women will use adult dating online websites to find married men and married women for marital dating and extramarital affairs.

There are many reasons why people look for extramarital affairs and these include lack of sexual interest from their partner or in their partner and generally looking for more excitement and to basically spice up their sex life.

There is a feeling of anonymity online so adult men and adult women tend to explore subjects that they wouldn’t otherwise be able to. Online dating websites have huge database of members and if you’re interested in cheating on your wife or your husband then there is a married woman or married man who is interested in you. You can take your online search as far as you want, this could lead to a full blown affair, one night stand or you may decide that this person doesn’t match what you are looking for and start searching again. Adult websites allow you to read, view a photo or video, chat online before you make any decision on whether to meet up or not. From this point of view it is both safe and discrete.

Never has it been so easy to meet other like minded adults for married affairs,. The Internet is the most common form of meeting married men and women for discreet affairs and adult fun. Most of theses websites are free to join and to have a look at who is on their database, you will normally then need to sign up on a paying basis to access the full functionality of the website. A simple mouse click and you can find thousands of people looking for adult fun. You can do everything from sending messages, sending winks, online chat and even video/web cam flirting with people in the area of your choice depending on how far you are willing to travel for an extra marital affair. Most members do prefer to look locally for to find affairs with married men or married women.

Using Social Networks to Meet Girls

When was the last time you open your account in a social networking site or an online dating site? It’s true that in the busy life, people have a hard time in maintaining good relationships. But then with the accessibility of online dating and social networking sites, it’s easy to find a friend, a partner or even a sex partner. Searching people on adult dating sites is more fun and exciting. It’s normal to have a crush during high school or college years. Yet, having him or her in your arms is definitely possible using these websites.

New Way to Meet People

Social networking and dating sites have been present on the internet for more than ten years. However, it’s hard to believe that having a conversation with someone, sharing pictures and videos is as easy as social networking sites today. On the other side, online dating sites today are really far from online sites before. Just imagine talking with someone using text messages and limited expressions. As for today, social networking sites and online dating are combined hand in hand.

It’s nice to live in a world wherein you’re free to do everything you want. With the help of online chatting websites, you can meet strangers from different countries around the world. And what’s more exciting is that you can have to chance to view how he or she looks like using webcams. You can even rate pictures and post videos as you wish. Or if you want, maybe you can talk about your favorite issues about love, romance, dating and sex. All these things happen without any hassle. And hence, you can determine whether a person on the other end of the line is serious in building relationship or not.

Like Other Sites Online, Be Careful

Hacking and other bad acts will not be avoided in an online dating. Using specific software of computer script, anyone could read everything you type on your chat box. These days, dating sites that feature social networking facilities are more secured compare to dating sites before. Just imagine having a full view of your chat mate. Perhaps it makes a greater impression that typing a message on your chat box.

Facebook & MySpace are Free Places to Meet People

Most social networking sites are free while dating sites charge a small amount. But then, why would you spend much of your money if there’s a secured way to meet other people? Yes, dating sites that feature social networking facilities are free to use. Members are free to share videos, interact with others, talk on mobile phones and view cam to cam without spending a single cent from their wallet.

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